We grow when we have the freedom to decide our own paths and determine what makes us happy. Sometimes, we think we have difficulty granting that freedom to others. Most often we are driven by fear, insecurity, or our ego's need for power.
We have no right to impose our will on others, and it doesn't work, anyway. We are met with resistance and resentment. No surprise here. When we try to control the behavior of others, we are sending the message that they are not o.k. as they are, that they need to do more, be more, and that we are the expert on what is right for them. Your good intentions do not change this.
I think that the issue of control is a spiritual matter. Required is the willingness to "turn it over", and trust that everything and everyone will be not only o.k., but just as they should be. We need to trust that our "help" is not needed!
