The weather is a symbol of endless change, and it offers us a lesson in acceptance. So often when we choose relationships, we try to fit another person into our predetermined ideal. When they don’t fit perfectly, we may try to make them over, creating our own vision from the raw material they’ve brought.
But unless someone asks for guidance and direction, entering into a relationship with someone we want to change is dishonest. Then our relationship becomes with someone we’ve imagined, and anytime our friend steps outside of that imaginary projection, we will be disappointed. An honest relationship is one in which we accept each other as whole individuals, and find a way to share our life experiences together.
By wanting to give another person a makeover, we are basically saying we don’t accept them for who they are. If we take a moment to imagine the roles reversed, we can get a sense of how it would feel if our friend only committed to us because they thought we were, or would become, someone else entirely.
If we feel that a change is needed in our relationship, the only makeover that we truly have the power to make is on ourselves. We cannot change others any more successfully than we can change the weather.
