Really Busy?

Most of us judge how busy we are by how much we have to do. When there are too many things to do, we think we're busy, and when there isn't much to do, it feels like we're not busy at all. But in fact, we can feel busy when there isn't that much to do, and we can feel relaxed even when there's a lot going on.

The states of "busy" and "not busy" aren't defined by how many things there are to do. Contrary to popular opinion, there is no such thing as multitasking; the brain can tend to only one thing at a time.

Being too busy or not being busy is an interpretation of our activity. Busy-ness is a state of mind, not a fact. No matter how much or how little we're doing, we're always just doing what we're doing, simply living this one moment of our lives. –Norman Fischer

How To Be With Others

The 25 traits below represent the ideal way to be with others. Consciously working on these for yourself is the spiritual practice doing onto others as you would have them do onto you. Those who possess these traits are liked by many simply because being this way gives energy to others. It is the practice of being loving, caring, giving and sharing which is all about the flow of energy.

It's quite a list. I suggest you take just one or two new traits to which to pay attention and practice every day. When these have become habit, then go on to another.

1. Allow others to be just as they are.
2. Give others the space to be and express themselves.
3. Show them your gratitude.
4. Be genuine, honest, open and loving.
5. Show a genuine interest in them.
6. Show them how unique they are.
7. Speak your truth without the need to justify it.
8. Allow others to speak their truth without judging them.
9. Listen. You’re alone when you do all the talking.
10. Don’t gossip about others. Talking highly of others is great but gossip is an energy drainer.
11. Give others the benefit of doubt – Everyone is human. Things are not always what they seem.
12. Give others space when they need it. Everyone needs their own space at times to refocus.
13. Consider their feelings.
14. Allow others to make their own decisions.
15. Allow your encounter to be just as it is without needing it to be different.
16. Be the same person with everyone.
17. Give them energy by sharing your excitement and passion for life.
18. Let them know how they bring something special to your life.
19. Be yourself.
20. Ask others for their honest opinion.
21. Resolve problems together.
22. Spend quality time with them. When you are there, be fully present.
23. Share an experience. Do something that you both have never done before.
24. Be playful, laugh and have fun. Stop being so serious. Being too serious is an energy drainer.
25. And most importantly, Know when to walk away from someone who is draining your energy on purpose. Its one thing to help someone in need and another to be abused by energy suckers. I’m sure you have already met someone who continuously drains you

Easy Does It

Be easy about this. Be playful about it. Don't work so hard at it. Let your dominant intent to be to feel good, and if you don't feel good, then let your dominant intent be to feel relief.

Feel your way through it. If you think your way through it, you can get off on all kinds of tangents. If you feel your way through it, you can come quickly to your Core Energy, and when you do that only good can then flow to you.

*Abraham-Hicks*

Stillness

If a response is required in a situation, focus within and feel the inner body. You will immediately become still and present as you withdraw consciousness from your mind, and the answer or action will come up from this deeper level.

Stillness is your essential nature. When you lose touch with inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself. When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world.
*Eckhart Tolle*

Sitting for a few minutes in a Whole Brain Posture, hands crossed at the wrists, feet flat on the floor and crossed at the ankles, is a very easy and efficient way to achieve this "stillness".

Prevent Erosion of the Body

We all have seen people whose outlook and body defied their chronological age. Like most of us, you have probably assumed that they had just been lucky in the genes they inherited. But, there's more to this.

Deepak Chopra offers some excellent advice on aging, and especially on preventing what he sees as optional erosion of the body.

Invisible factors of erosion and aging

1. Unpredictability -- Random events disrupt your body's rhythms.

2. Disorder, confusion -- A breakdown of external order leads to inner disorder.

3. Accidents -- Mistakes in your life lead to mistake in your body.

4. Trauma, sickness -- When wounded, your body loses track of time.

5. Violence -- When attacked, your body's timing is shattered.

6. Chaos -- When all sense of order is destroyed, your body cannot manage time at all.

Making Time Your Ally

1. Keep regular hours, eat and sleep on a regular schedule.

2. Avoid drastic changes in diet and activity.

3. Set up an orderly work environment. Reduce distractions.

4. Rest quietly once to twice during the day to let our body retune itself.

5. Take yourself out of stressful situations sooner rather than later.

6. Take your time; don't rush.

7. Make decisions when they arise. Don't procrastinate or get distracted.

8. Protect yourself , avoid the temptation to plunge into high-risk situations.

9. Put your house and finances in order.

10. Address underlying anxiety and underlying anger. Learn to do this without losing control or hurting others.

11. Become more resilient emotionally.

12. Live as if you have all the time in the world.

Dealing With Irritation

There will always be factors and people that we cannot control; how we respond can determine the quality of our lives.

From a spiritual perspective, irritation can be an important teacher and indicator that we are making progress on our path.

I see feeling irritated as a sign of faulty thinking. We believe the irritating person "knows better" and is purposely annoying us. But, who are we to determine how another should behave? How is it that we think they should please us? It could be that WE are in error. Wouldn't it be better to be more accepting, and know that the behavior of others has nothing to do with US? Their behavior is their business, not ours to judge.

This goes against everything we have been taught, doesn't it? We are taught to please others, and so we believe others should please us...all the time. Wouldn't it be more workable to teach love?

Regarding Constant Improving

No one imagines that symphony is supposed to improve as it goes along, or that the whole object of playing is to reach the finale. The point of music is discovered in every moment of playing and listening to it. It is the same, I feel, with the greater part of our lives, and if we are unduly absorbed in improving them we may forget altogether to live them.

Looking for Answers

When you realize that you always have the answers within yourself, you can stop searching outside of yourself.

When we get quiet enough to tune into our hearts, we always know what we want and what action to take. We just have to tune out all those voices of the past which may have led us to doubt ourselves.