July 31, 2008

Take Action

Anyone can hit a wall. The anguish felt then is proof of one's desire to move forward. But all is for naught if you falter at that moment. Action- that is the key to breaking through an impasse.

Why doesn't constant trampling defeat the dandelion? The key to its strength is its long and sturdy root, which extends deep into the earth. The same principle applies to people. The true victors in life are those whose who, enduring repeated challenges and setbacks, have sent the roots of their being to such a depth that nothing can shake them.

No one can better bask in summer's balm than those who have endured winter's bite. Similarly, it is those who have suffered through life's darkest hours who are able to truly savor the bright dawn of happiness. The person who has transformed the worst of fate into the best of fortune is life's champion.

All great literature, ancient and modern, is a bridge connecting one human being to another, one spirit to another. The quality of our life is determined by how many of those bridges we can cross.

(Author unknown)


I think many of us have stopped thinking in terms of hardships just being a bridge to cross...but, that really is what life is about.

This blog and I will be on vacation, so there will be no new posts for a short while.:-)

July 30, 2008

Telling a Different Story

If you examine your history, or if you keep talking about your past, you can't help but repeat it. Whatever you place your attention on becomes stronger. I know we all think that if we look at our history carefully enough, we can gain control over our present, but nothing could be further away from how things actually work. You can't attract good things by thinking about the not-so-good.
Stop chewing on that prickly cactus!


When you focus upon lack in an attitude of complaining, you establish a vibrational point of attraction that then gives you access only to more thoughts of complaint. Your deliberate effort to tell a new story will establish a new pattern of thought, providing you with a new point of attraction from your present, about your past, and into your future. The simple effort of looking for positive aspects will set a new vibrational tone that will begin the immediate attraction of thoughts, people, circumstances, and things that are pleasing to you. Abraham

July 29, 2008

The Joy of Being

These are inspirational quotes from Eckhart Tolle:

that allows everything to be.
Listen to the sounds'
don't judge them.
Listen to the silence
underneath the sounds.
Touch something--anything
and feel and acknowledge
its Being.

that judgment stops
through acceptance of
what is, you are free
of the mind.

as a state of mind.
When you catch yourself
slipping into waiting,
snap out of it.
Come into the present
moment. Just be,
and enjoy being.
If you are present, there is never any need
for you to wait for anything.

July 28, 2008

Dispelling Illusions

Since Uri Geller first attained international prominence in the 1970's, millions of people have been fascinated by the idea of bending metal with their minds. There are dozens of other ways to apply this energy, but bending metal supplies the necessary drama that will help us move to the next level.

In other words, if you are able to do this then you will be extremely excited, and this excitement will serve you well as you apply this energy to demonstrations that are much more important. When you have successfully bent a spoon with your mind, you will realize that you are not bound by the common laws of the physical universe you have followed until now. You will realize that everything is a choice. You have chosen to follow these laws, and you can choose to transcend them. This is what the world often calls a Miracle Worker.

You have been asked to believe certain laws that make up your experience of the world. These laws define a box that you are asked to exist within. The walls of the box limit and define who you are or what you can become. "You" are what lives inside the box, while "You Are Not" what lives outside. Thus was the ego born, the concept of separation, and the whole thought system you have used to live and exist in the world. (from the Daily OM)

July 26, 2008

Changing Your Life

There are many beliefs about how to change the life you have. Below is the way of the "Law of Attraction" which has become a household word because the concepts have helped many. I believe the "right way" is the one in which you choose to put your trust, and, therefore, commit yourself to following the principles.


Every time you appreciate something, every time you praise something, every time you feel good about something, you are telling the Universe: 'More of this, please.' You need never make another verbal statement of this intent, and if you are mostly in a state of appreciation, all good things will flow to you. A desire to appreciate is a very good first step, and then as you find more things that you would like to say 'thank you' about, it quickly gains momentum. And as you want to feel appreciation, you attract something to appreciate. And as you appreciate it, then you attract something else to appreciate, until, in time, you are experiencing a "Rampage of Appreciation." Abraham

At every moment of difficulty and challenge in your life you have a choice: opposition or composition. To repeat: You can either oppose that which you are experiencing, or compose that which you choose. Compose what you choose.

Neale Donald Walsch

Begin telling the story of your desire, and then add to it the details of the positive aspects that you can find that match those desires. And then embellish your positive expectation by speculating with your good-feeling 'Wouldn't it be nice if?'

Examples: You can say things like "Only good things come to me....I'll figure it out as I go along...Every time you tell yourself a better-feeling story, you will feel better and the details of your life will improve. The better it gets, the better it gets. Abraham

July 25, 2008

More on Forgiveness

If you have not found a way to forgive which works for you, you might try this. Every day, ask God to bless the person you are resenting. Keep doing it until you experience a shift. You will discover that you've totally have forgotten why you are asking for this blessing. :-)

In the long run, it's not a question of whether they deserve to be forgiven. You're not forgiving them for their sake. You're doing it for yourself. For your own health and well-being, forgiveness is simply the most energy-efficient option. It frees you from the incredibly toxic, debilitating drain of holding a grudge. Don't let these people live rent free in your head. If they hurt you before, why let them keep doing it year after year in your mind? It's not worth it but it takes heart effort to stop it. You can muster that heart power to forgive them as a way of looking out for yourself. It's one thing you can be totally selfish about. Doc Childre and Howard Martin

The remarkable thing is that we really love our neighbor as ourselves: we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. We are prone to sacrifice others when we are ready to sacrifice ourselves. Eric Hoffer

I worry about fast forgivers. They tend to forgive quickly in order to avoid their pain. Or they forgive fast in order to get an advantage over the people they forgive. And their instant forgiving only makes things worse...People who have been wronged badly and wounded deeply should give themselves time and space before they forgive...There is a right moment to forgive. We cannot predict it in advance; we can only get ourselves ready for it when it arrives...Don't do it quickly, but don't wait too long...If we wait too long to forgive, our rage settles in and claims squatter's rights to our souls. Lewis B. Smedes - The Art of Forgiving

July 24, 2008

On Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not about the other person, nor is it about pretending that you were not wronged. It is not about forgetting. It is about removing a burden from yourself. If this is a new concept for you, it may be the most difficult thing you have ever tried to do, but it is well worth it and it will become easier with practice. Your self-righteous ego will fight you....but, do it anyway, so you will be free. It is worth it! It is very worth it.

Forgiveness is not a moral issue. It is an energy dynamic...
Forgiveness means that you do not carry the baggage of an experience.
When you choose not to forgive, the experience that you do not forgive sticks with you.
When you choose not to forgive, it is like agreeing to wear dark, gruesome sunglasses that distort everything, and it is you who are forced every day to look at life through those contaminated lenses. Gary Zukav


Forgiveness does not mean that we suppress anger; forgiveness means that we have asked for a miracle: the ability to see through mistakes that someone has made to the truth that lies in all of our hearts. Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness. Attack thoughts towards others are attack thoughts towards ourselves. The first step in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive. Maryanne Williamson

The incoherence that results from holding on to resentments and unforgiving attitudes keeps you from being aligned with your true self. It can block you from your next level of quality life experience. Metaphorically, it's the curtain standing between the room you're living in now and a new room, much larger and full of beautiful objects.

The act of forgiveness removes the curtain. Clearing up your old accounts can free up so much energy that you jump right into a whole new house. Forgiving releases you from the punishment of a self-made prison where you are both the inmate and the jailer. Doc Childre and Howard Martin

July 23, 2008


When we choose to love, or to allow our minds to be one with God, then life is peaceful. When we turn away from love, the pain sets in.
—Excerpted from A Course in Miracles


And whether we love, or close our hearts to love, is a mental choice we make, every moment of every day.

—Excerpted from A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles


Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.
There's nothing you can do that
can't be done.
Nothing you can sing that can't be sung.
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It's easy.
There's nothing you can make that can't be made.
No one you can save that can't be saved.
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be in time
It's easy.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
There's nothing you can know that isn't known.
Nothing you can see that isn't shown.
Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be.
It's easy.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
All you need is love (all together now)
All you need is love (everybody)
All you need is love, love, love is all you

The Beatles

July 22, 2008

Law of the Garbage Truck

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day? Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're probably set back on your heels. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly she/he can get back her/his focus on what's important.

Five years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a taxi cab in Indianapolis. Here's what happened:

I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Indianapolis Airport. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!

The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly.

So, I said, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!" And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, "The Law of the Garbage Truck."

Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you. When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on.

You'll be happy you did.

So this was it: The "Law of the Garbage Truck." I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets? It was that day I said, "I'm not going to do it anymore."

I began to see garbage trucks. Like in the movie "The Sixth Sense," the little boy said, "I see Dead People." Well, now "I see Garbage Trucks." I see the load they're carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And like my Taxi Driver, I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on.

Good leaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting. Good parents know that they have to welcome their children home from school with hugs and kisses. Leaders and parents know that they have to be fully present, and at their best for the people they care about.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take over their day. What about you? What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by?

You'll be happier. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so.. Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't & God will love them through you!

July 21, 2008

Joy & Play

If you never have, you should. These things are fun and fun is good.
Dr. Seuss
If I were a toy, I would say 'Press my button'.
Julie De Koven

This is one of the most inspiring videos I've ever seen:

July 20, 2008

Being vs. Doing

The concept of being vs. doing can be difficult to grasp. We think about what we want to do, but how do we just “be” as it takes not thinking. Activities that allow us to connect with our hearts and feelings help us learn how to “be."

A helpful tool is making a comfort list, things that bring joy and peace, keeping you “out of your mind!” The list may look like this:

  • Listening to music
  • Walking along the beach
  • Taking a warm bubble bath
  • Reading a great book
  • Listening to wind chimes
  • Watching candles glow
  • Listening to the silence
  • Spending time at a bookstore
  • Talking with friends
  • Watching the sunrise
  • Watching the sunset
  • Having a massage
  • Giving a hug
  • Collecting your favorite things

July 19, 2008

Love of Self

The importance of learning to love ourselves is, I believe, the most overlooked aspect of our development. It is not the same as being self-centered!

Our lack of loving ourselves is demonstrated when we cannot graciously accept compliments, or never feeling satisfied with a job well done, always wanting to be and do better, and getting mad at ourselves for getting sick. When we are unkind to ourselves, we are sending the message that we are not good enough to our bodies, doing damage which will have to be addressed later.

I have come to see lack of loving one self....a disconnection from God, really....as a primary issue with clients, one which forms the foundation for all ensuing difficulties. This kind of love comes from the heart and is never ego based.


Not only is it possible to love ourselves and realize that we are imperfect, but it's possible to do this at the same time. Often part of loving ourselves is the realization that there is something about us that we need to work on. M. Scott Peck, M.D.

You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. Buddha

There is nothing that holds us back more from mental health, from health as a society, and from God than the sense we all have of our own unimportance, unloveliness, and undesirability.
M. Scott Peck, M.D.

Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives. Louise Hay

Let us relearn how important we are, how beautiful we are, and how we are desired beyond our wildest imaginings. And let us, as best we can, go out into the world to teach others how important they are, how beautiful they are, and how they too are desired beyond their wildest imaginings. M. Scott Peck, M.D. (Further Along the Road Less Traveled)

July 18, 2008

Secrets of Happiness

There are many ways to approach getting happy. Yes, it is something you do, not something which is mysteriously bestowed on some, but not on others. If you find yourself thinking "yeah...little does she know what kind of life I have had!", instead of feeling curious, you have demonstrated to yourself one of the ways you keep happiness at bay.

That both happiness and unhappiness is a product of our thinking has entered the mainstream finally, after centuries of ignoring the wisdom of wisdom from Buddha, Rumi, Aristotle, and many others. Most of us process external circumstances unconsciously. This makes it seem as if circumstances cause our feelings, behavior, and what comes into our life. It seems as if we are the effect of external causes over which we have no control.

These are the secrets of happiness from Bill Harris:

First, happy people acknowledge that they are creating their reality internally and externally.
They see circumstances as an influence, but know that what they do inside creates how the feel and behave, and what people and situations they draw to themselves. Even if they cannot see how they are creating whatever is happening, they take responsibility.

Another characteristic of happy people is that their actions are the result of the possibilities they see. Where the unhappy person sees a challenge as impossible, the happy person sees what is possible. And, by focusing on what is possible, happy people make those possibilities come true.

A third characteristic of happy, successful people: They focus their minds on what they want and keep their mind off what they do not want.

The final characteristic: Happy people are consciously aware. As a result, their brains are less likely to run on automatic, creating internal states...and external outcomes....they did not intend and do not want.

Bill Harris explains so well what my work with PSYCH-K and Energy Alignment is about. I assist with the refocus of the mind, body, and spirit, especially that untapped unconscious part which runs your life 95% of the time. Notice the word "assist". I do no magic. It is the client who produces the magic....with just a little help from me.

July 16, 2008


The weather is a symbol of endless change, and it offers us a lesson in acceptance.

So often when we choose relationships, we try to fit another person into our predetermined ideal. When they don’t fit perfectly, we may try to make them over, creating our own vision from the raw material they’ve brought.

But unless someone asks for guidance and direction, entering into a relationship with someone we want to change is dishonest. Then our relationship becomes with someone we’ve imagined, and anytime our friend steps outside of that imaginary projection, we will be disappointed. An honest relationship is one in which we accept each other as whole individuals, and find a way to share our life experiences together.

By wanting to give another person a makeover, we are basically saying we don’t accept them for who they are. If we take a moment to imagine the roles reversed, we can get a sense of how it would feel if our friend only committed to us because they thought we were, or would become, someone else entirely.

If we feel that a change is needed in our relationship, the only makeover that we truly have the power to make is on ourselves. We cannot change others any more successfully than we can change the weather.

(excerpted from the Daily OM)

July 15, 2008

Believing in Yourself

Lessons from the Wizard of Oz
by Will Craig

Most of us are familiar with the story of Dorothy and the friends she meets on her way to find the Wizard. The Scarecrow who felt he lacked a brain; the Tin Man who didn’t think he had a heart; and the Cowardly Lion who wished he had courage.

The Wizard (a man whose heart was in the right place but whose ethics needed some work) actually exercised some effective coaching skills at the end of the story.

For each of Dorothy’s three friends, he fostered a sense of belief that they, indeed, had those things they sought so desperately. He convinced the Scarecrow he was smart by giving him a diploma. The Tin Woodsman received his gift from the Wizard and knew he now had a heart because it was breaking. The Cowardly Lion became instantly courageous when he received his medal for bravery.

Believing In Yourself
When Dorothy saw her friends all get what they wanted she was in firm belief she could certainly have what she wanted. Glynda, the Good Witch, had Dorothy repeat, “There’s no place like home, there’s no place like home, there’s no place like home…

Each of them, as it turns out, already had inside of them the answers they were seeking. Ironically, they had the potential and the ability to grant their own desires from the very beginning. The only thing missing was belief.

The beauty of The Wizard of Oz is that we are all able to identify with the characters and their challenges along life’s path. Doesn’t it make you think of the fantastic life you could have if you really believed you could?

July 14, 2008

Life is a Mirror

We all have learned to look at a photo like this and know, without a doubt, that the trees are not IN the water. It's a bit more difficult to see our life as a reflection of ourselves. It's amazing how different our world becomes once we make an effort to see things in this way.

Look in the mirror.
What's there
is not you,
but an image projected
by the ego.
Like a movie.

Know that,
apply it to
your whole life,
and things will begin
to look different.
Very different.

Stefan Nadzo


Just by being ourselves
we are borne toward a destiny
far beyond anything
we could imagine.
It is enough to know
that the being
I nourish inside me
is the same as the Being
that suffuses every atom
of the cosmos.
When the two
see each other as equals
they will be equal,
because then the same force
that controls the galaxies
will be upholding
my individual existence.

Deepak Chopra


We dont see things as they are
We see things as we are.

Anais Nin

July 12, 2008

Making a Difference

Life is sculpted on a moment-to-moment basis. Every one of the thoughts we think, the words we speak, and the actions we take contributes to the complex quality and character of the universe’s unfolding. It simply is not possible to be alive without making an impact on the world that surrounds us. Every action taken affects the whole as greatly as every action not taken. And when it comes to making the world a better place, what we choose not to do can be just as important as what we choose to do.

It is wise to be somewhat selective about how and where we are using our energy in order to keep ourselves from becoming scattered. Not every cause or action is appropriate for every person. When a situation catches our attention, however, and speaks to our heart, it is important that we honor our impulse to help and take the action that feels right for us. It may be offering a kind word to a friend, giving resources to people in need, or just taking responsibility for our own behavior. By doing what we can, when we can, we add positive energy to our world. And sometimes, it may be our one contribution that makes all the difference.


(I have excerpted the above from the Daily OM.) I used to think that I was too busy keeping keeping my own head above water to be of use to anyone else. Then, I discovered the joy in "small action". It was true that I could not manage anything which I then thought of as being significant, but I could take my cart back to the provided rack, I could pick up some wind-blown trash, I could help a turtle with his much too slow journey across the road, and I could give everyone a smile!

The biggest contribution may have been to myself. I found the joy in paying attention, in being in what Eckhart Tolle refers to as The Now. Everything has a beginning, and nothing is ever really "small". Tiny seeds are the beginning of magnificent fruits.

July 11, 2008

Perception or Truth?

Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, something is out of tune. Carl Jung

When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us. Alexander Graham Bell

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. Carl Jung

Once in a while it really hits people that they don't have to experience the world in the way they have been told to. Alan Keightley

It all depends on how we look at things, and not on how things are in themselves. Carl Jung.

Each of us tends to think we see things as they are, that we are objective. But this is not the case. We see the world, not as it is, but as we are - or, as we are conditioned to see it. Stephen Covey

July 9, 2008

Magic and Beauty

I have learned silence from the talkative,
tolerance from the intolerant
and kindness from the unkind.
I should not be ungrateful to those teachers.

The appearance of things change according to the emotions,
and thus we see magic and beauty in them,
while the magic and beauty are really in ourselves.

You give but little when you give of your possessions.
It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.
Forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet
and the winds long to play with your hair.

You pray in your distress and in your need;
would that you might pray also in the fullness of your joy
and in your days of abundance.

Kahlil Gibran

July 6, 2008

Layers of Feelings

Many people are taught from a young age to suppress feelings commonly regarded as negative, such as anger, resentment, fear, and sorrow. Those who cannot or will not express these emotions tend to engage in passive-aggressive behaviors that provide them with a means of redirecting their feelings.

Passive aggression can take many forms: People who feel guilty saying “no” may continually break their promises because they couldn’t say no when they meant it. Others will substitute snide praise for a slur to distance themselves from the intense emotions they feel. More often than not, such behavior is a cry for help uttered by those in need of compassion and gentle guidance.

When we recognize passive-aggressive patterns in the behavior of others, we should never allow ourselves to be drawn into a struggle for power. Passive aggression is most often wielded by those who feel powerless in the face of what they perceive as negative emotions because they hope to avoid confronting their true feelings. They feel they are in control because they do not display overt emotion and often cannot understand how they have alienated their peers.

If someone close to us shows signs of frustration or annoyance but claims nothing is amiss, we can point out that their tone of voice or gestures are communicating a different message and invite them to confide in us. When we feel slighted by a backhanded compliment, it is important that we calmly explain how the jibe made us feel and why. And when an individual continually breaks their promises, we can help them understand that they are free to say no if they are unwilling to be of service.

As you learn to detect passive aggression, you may be surprised to see a hint of it in yourself. Coping with the natural human tendency to veil intense emotions can be as simple as reminding yourself that expressing your true feelings is healthy. The emotions typically regarded as negative will frequently be those that inspire you to change yourself and your life for the better, whereas passive-aggressive behavior is a means of avoiding change. When you deal constructively with your feelings, you can put them behind you and move forward unencumbered by unexplored emotion. (Daily OM)


Yes, that which you resist, persists. Feeling it, recognizing it, and accepting it as the shadow side of yourself, will allow you to begin expressing yourself more immediately and honestly....or, learn to change negativity to more positive thoughts.

July 4, 2008

Thoughts on Love

We cannot possibly let ourselves get frozen into regarding everyone we do not know as an absolute stranger.
(Albert Schweitzer)

Love the animals, love the plants, love everything. If you love everything, you will perceive the divine mystery in things. Once you perceive it, you will begin to comprehend it better every day. And you will come at last to love the whole world with an all-embracing love.
(Fyodor Dostoyevsky)

People who respond to you in the only way that they know how. You will find great inner peace when you do not need others to act in a certain way to be happy yourself… When you send someone unconditional love, it is no longer possible for you to be harmed by his or her negative energy. If there is any situation in your life where you are feeling hurt, afraid, or separated from others, begin sending them love and acceptance for who they are. This will heal you and them.
( Sanaya Roman]

July 2, 2008

Make Like a Duck

From the Daily OM

One of the most difficult challenges in life is learning not to take things to heart and hold on to it. Especially when we’re younger, or if we’re very sensitive, we take so much of what comes our way to heart. This can be overwhelming and unproductive if it throws us off balance on a regular basis. When we are feeling criticized or attacked from all directions, it becomes very difficult for us to recover ourselves so that we can continue to speak and act our truth. This is when we would do well to remember the old saying about letting certain things roll off us, like water off a duck’s back.

Most of the time, the attacks and criticisms of others have much more to do with them and how they are feeling than with us. If we get caught up in trying to adjust ourselves to other people’s negative energy, we lose touch with our core. In fact, in a positive light, these slings and arrows offer us the opportunity to strengthen our core sense of self, and to learn to dodge and deflect other people’s misdirected negativity. The more we do this, the more we are able to discern what belongs to us and what belongs to other people. With practice, we become masters of our energetic integrity, refusing to serve as targets for the disowned anger and frustration of the people around us.

Eventually, we will be able to hear the feedback that others have to offer, taking in anything that might actually be constructive, and releasing that which has nothing to do with us. First, though, we tend ourselves compassionately by recognizing when we can’t take something in from the outside without hurting ourselves. This is when we make like a duck, shaking it off and letting it roll off our back as we continue our way in the world.

Many of us carry early childhood criticism in our subconscious brain, and it is this voice which whispers the negative messages which make our life difficult at times. Using Psychological Kinesiology, these messages can be effectively replaced with positive ones. The client immediately feels lighter. This is why my work gives me so much pleasure.