December 21, 2010

Connecting to Our Center

You may have heard "Prayer is asking God for something; Meditation is listening to God." Whether you believe you are listening to God or tuning into your own inner voice is not the point.
Getting quiet enough to hear is.

There are many ways to meditate that do not involve sitting on a cushion cross legged. It's about "being", rather than "doing"....connecting to our center.

  • Listening to music
  • Walking along the beach
  • Taking a warm bubble bath
  • Reading a great book
  • Listening to wind chimes
  • Watching candles glow
  • Listening to the silence
  • Spending time at a bookstore
  • Watching the sunrise
  • Watching the sunset
  • Having a massage
  • Watching our cat sleep
  • Knitting or hand sewing
  • Free-style writing
If you have been an on-the-go/can't stand things quiet type/must multi task kind of person, this may be difficult at first, but each time becomes just a bit easier. As you become more grounded...or will find that all the things you thought you HAD to do were either illusion, or you will do them easily.

December 19, 2010

Cats Don't Fly

It's easy to take cats (and dogs) pretty much at face value. We do not expect them to fly no matter how much they love us or want to please us. It just is not going to happen.

I think it would be a more peaceable...and happier... world if we could find acceptance of humans as just as they are. I don't think we have to necessarily LIKE of of their traits....only to ACCEPT them.

Entering into a relationship with someone we want to change is dishonest and controlling....and, usually futile. Also, we miss the opportunity of learning and growing from different viewpoints another has to offer. By wanting to give another person a makeover, we are basically saying we don’t accept them for who they are. An honest relationship is one in which we accept each other as whole individuals, sharing our life experiences, as well as our different viewpoints, with each other.

Though we do have the power to give ourselves a makeover, it's important that we be reasonable and kind. We, like cats, won't be sprouting wings and flying.

December 12, 2010

Law of Attraction

You will notice that those who speak most of prosperity, have it. Those who speak most of health, have it. Those who speak most of sickness, have it.

Those who speak most of poverty, have it. It is Law. It can be no other way... The way you feel is your point of attraction, and so, the Law of Attraction is most understood when you see yourself as a magnet getting more and more of the way you feel.

When you feel lonely, you attract more loneliness. When you feel poor, you attract more poverty. When you feel sick, you attract more sickness. When you feel unhappy, you attract more unhappiness. When you feel healthy and vital and alive and prosperous—you attract more of all of those things. **Abraham-Hicks**

There's really nothing mysterious about this. Reality is fluid, depending on where you place your focus. This is not to say that it's necessarily easy. Still, it's so worth it to discipline ourselves to always find and concentrate on the bright side of everything. Anything you can imagine, you can have!

December 6, 2010


“If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid.” ~ Einstein

December 5, 2010

About Money

When we have problems we tend to obsess about them....perhaps because we think we can solve them by thinking about them. But, have you noticed how things have a way of easing when we "let go"? Whether you view this as "Letting go and letting God" or "The law of attraction" the result is the same: Resolution to the problem.

You do not have to have money to attract money, but you cannot feel poor and attract money. The key is, you have to find ways of improving the way you feel from right where you stand before things can begin to change.

By softening your attention to the things that are going wrong, and by beginning to tell stories that lean more in the direction of what you want instead of in the direction of what you have got, your vibration will shift; your point of attraction will shift—and you will get different results.


November 25, 2010

Giving Thanks

I would like to see Thanksgiving not be so much about eating, as a day declared for expressing gratitude.....a reminder of the many blessings in our lives. Perhaps, this would open our awareness of the smallest "things".

Right now I am watching my cat sleeping, his long legs stretched out toward me, showing me his sweet pink paw pads. I am about to get up and go into the kitchen where I have a choice of wonderful foods. It's an overcast day outside, but I am warm and comfortable inside with lights and music. A shower of perfectly controlled temperature awaits me. I could go on and on! In fact, happiness depends on the recognition and appreciation of all the good things in our lives.

Yes, this can be a challenge at times, but even in the most dire circumstances, there is always something good, something worthy of our thanks.

November 22, 2010

Allowing or Resisting

Many people are approaching life from the flawed premise that if they work hard and struggle long and pay a big enough price, they will then be rewarded with financial well-being. And since they do not realize that in their struggle they are denying themselves alignment with the abundance they seek, when the abundance does not come, they attribute it to luck or favoritism that is being directed away from them and toward another.

But there is no luck or favoritism. There is only allowing or resisting, letting in or keeping out the abundance that you deserve.

As you gradually train your own thoughts into those of positive expectation, as you align with thoughts of worthiness and Well-Being, as you align with your true power by seeking good-feeling thoughts—you will no longer offer resistance to your own abundance.

And when your resistance stops, your abundance will come. A flood of good-feeling ideas and possibilities will flow to you. Opportunities and propositions will be plentiful. And soon you will stand in knowing amusement that all of this was always there within your reach, but in your resistant state of attraction, you were not yet able to experience it . . . but then, it came—not because of your struggle but because of your ease. **Abraham**

"Do what you love....The money will come" was a popular belief in the eighties. I, personally, found this to be untrue in so many ways that I can't go into it here. I know it is possible...and love doing something, but still resist it. It's necessary to be 100% aligned with it! How hard is it for a fish to swim downstream?

November 15, 2010

Ageless Body, Ageless Mind

Aging Is Rooted in being STUCK...Every experience leaves a residue in your cells. That's because your body's version of being happy or sad, angry or loving, agitated or at peace comes down to chemistry. It takes a chemical reaction in your brain before you can register any experience. Every cell can clear out old experiences as easily as breathing. If you let the old be breathed out, you will be fresh and open to new experiences, which is a perfect definition of being young. Being stuck brings fatigue, staleness, habit, ritual and the repetition of outworn beliefs. When you get unstuck, life flows like water.

A River Never Ages because it flows. Your body is also a river, constantly changing. The direction of change is up to you. As long as you keep growing, change will move forward. As long as there is forward motion, stagnation is impossible. The key is entirely in your awareness. One person can faithfully attend the gym but be miserable inside. Another can take a stroll in the sunshine in a happy frame of mind. Which one do you think is remaining youthful?

Ultimately, an ageless body depends on a timeless mind (I think somebody once said that). The mystery of immortality can be solved this very minute if you decide to. All it takes is a willingness to find the part of you that is timeless already. That part is the still, silent realm of meditation. In meditation, you allow your mind to find its truth, and that truth is beyond time. By truth I mean what is truly real. **Deepak Chopra**

November 9, 2010

Your Relationship to Time

To open up the path to the timeless, here is a guide that can alter your life.

Where the Mind Goes, the Body Must Follow

Almost everyone has heard of the mind-body connection. But they often reduce it to simple notions about positive thinking or "You're only as old as you think you are." In reality, everywhere your mind goes, your body must follow. It's not a choice. Through a flood of chemical messengers, every thought you have is sent to your body. Therefore, your mind is playing the major role in aging. The good news is that it can play the major role in reversing aging.

Memory Freezes Time

Memory is how we hold on to the past. This means that a toxic memory is the same as a toxic experience being repeated over and over. Regret, hostility, anxiety, insecurity all depend upon trying to relive the past and change it. Therefore, memory blocks the flow of life in the present. If you are fully alive, you will remain young. The past is dead. There is no life there, even when you dwell on a happy past. Your body wants to be alive here and now. To give it that gift, bring your awareness to the here and now (Deepak Chopra)

To be continued....

November 1, 2010

Facing Fears

The things we don't want to look at in ourselves are the very things we need to look at.

The feelings that make us want to run away are buried treasure full of energy and inspiration if we are willing to look. These feelings come in many forms, from strange images or snippets of information to recurring dreams and feelings that rise up seemingly without a reason. Whatever shape they come in, and no matter how scary they seem, these messengers bring the information we need in order to grow.

When we are tired of pushing something down, or trying to run away from it, a good first step is to write down what we think we are avoiding. Often this turns out to be only the surface of the issue or a symbol of something else. Expressing ourselves fully on paper is a safe way to begin exploring the murky territory of the unconscious. The coolness of the intellect can give us the distance we need to read what we have written and feel less afraid of it.

It helps if we remember that no matter how dark or negative our thoughts or feelings may be, these are energies shared by all humanity. (We are not anywhere near as "different" as we think!)

Within the parts of ourselves that we don't want to look at, there are emotions that need to be felt. Unfelt emotions are stuck energy, and when we leave emotions unprocessed, we deprive ourselves of access to that energy. When we feel strong enough, we can begin the process of feeling those emotions, on our own or with guidance from a spiritual counselor. (The Daily OM)

When we dare look at our fears...exposing them to daylight....they vanish, and we grow stronger.

October 30, 2010

Programming the Self

I love quotes because they are quick to read and even when I can't recall most of them, they are tucked away in my brain.

Sometimes quickly, but most often gradually, the concepts jell and become part of who I am.
Each step of the way, I am "programming" myself into a more positive person, resulting in my happiness. It's because I want to share my the hope that I can bring some light to others.....that I write this blog. There are times I falter, but I won't give up. :-)

Here is one of my favorites from Abraham-Hicks:

We would like you to reach the place where you're not willing to listen to people criticize one another… where you take no satisfaction from somebody being wrong… where it matters to you so much that you feel good, that you are only willing to think positive things about people…you are only willing to look for positive aspects; you are only willing to look for solutions, and you are not willing to beat the drum of all of the problems of the world.

October 4, 2010

A Meditation

Take a moment to step out of the "turmoil" and see beyond the present situation as it is presenting itself to you. Always remember to look beyond what you see with your physical eyes and see from the highest viewpoint that you can attain.

Do not get stuck in what you perceive to be "problems" and their relationship to your life as Spirit. The challenges that present themselves to you on a daily basis are not to be looked upon as "bad" things but opportunities for growth. Be grateful for these lessons and allow them to move through your life constantly.

Resonate with the energy of the winds as they blow to you and through you. The Wind is never stuck in one place for any length of time. Imagine for a moment trying to attach your selves to any one "place" if you were the wind. It is an impossible task. It is similar to you trying to attach your self to the notion that anything is permanent on the journey of the Soul.

If there is turmoil in any area of your life at this time, know that it will not be there "forever," whatever forever may be. Allow your Self to see from this higher perspective and move through this supposed turmoil with the energy of the Wind…

Adopt an attitude of gratitude for the gift of being present during these momentous times on the planet. Release all that does not resonate with the beauty of this life you lead. Cleanse your Self of any unwanted beliefs or attitudes that hinder your own personal growth and acceptance of life as it is at this moment. The expression of the energies of gratitude, peace and joy, at all times, will undoubtedly assist in magically dispelling any turmoil in your life now.

September 30, 2010

Effects of Kindness

The positive effect of kindness on the immune system and on the increased production of serotonin in the brain has been proven in research studies. Serotonin is a naturally occurring substance in the body that makes us feel more comfortable, peaceful, and even blissful.

In fact, the role of most anti-depressants is to stimulate the production of serotonin chemically, helping to ease depression. Research has shown that a simple act of kindness directed toward another improves the functioning of the immune system and stimulates the production of serotonin in both the recipient of the kindness and the person extending the kindness.

Even more amazing is that persons observing the act of kindness have similar beneficial results. Imagine this! Kindness extended, received, or observed beneficially impacts the physical health and feelings of everyone involved! (Wayne Dyer)

Sometimes, when we cannot manage more, just making eye contact with someone and smiling is enough. It's not about how much we give, but about giving what we can.

September 15, 2010

Living With Intention

The quality of our lives begins with our intentions. Our intentions form our thoughts, our thoughts shape our actions, and our actions create our lives

Living intentionally means:

  • creating a vision for our lives,
  • acting deliberately, in alignment with our stated goals, values and priorities,
  • taking the time to focus, recharge, breathe, meditate, and feel gratitude,
  • pausing to experience life and all its joys, love and wonders.

Without clear intention, our energy is scattered and our actions are less powerful.

(Dr. Laura Belsten)

Quick story:: Carol is a renowned artist living in the mountains of Colorado, and her studio is a charming old cabin which sits behind her home, nestled in the woods. It’s heated with a wood stove.

When she first started using her studio cabin, Carol found the wood stove unable to keep the temperature to a comfortable level. She liked having the woodstove and the ambiance it created in her studio, and they certainly had plenty of wood on their mountain property, so she began researching more efficient wood stoves and found the perfect one. The price tag, however, was a hefty $1,500.

Carol set her intention to find that wood stove for half that price. She posted a picture of the wood stove in her workspace and began checking online auction and advertising sites regularly. She also put her intention out in conversations with neighbors, community members, builders and remodelers. She even checked the want ads in the local paper.

Within three months, Carol found the exact model of wood stove she wanted, still new, in the box, for $750. A couple had purchased it for their basement, but then decided to move. They had never installed it, and wanted to re-coup some of their expense, and Carol was willing to pay $750.

Carol’s studio is now toasty warm and comfortable even on the snowiest Colorado days.

This is a very simple example of the power of intention, of course, and yet it illustrates how intentions can pull us forward, improving the quality of our lives.


If you have not tried this, it may sound far-fetched. But, I can personally vouch for the fact that this is exactly how things work in my life!

September 3, 2010

What's It All About?

This is one of my favorite quotes from Abraham-Hicks.

You never get it done, and you cannot get it wrong. Life is supposed to be fun: you are creator, you are a focusing mechanism, and you are here in an environment that is very conducive to that.

When you get hold of an idea, play it out for the pleasure in it. If you are doing it for any other reason, then you are not connecting to your Source Energy.

August 23, 2010


If you are feeling a shortage of time or money, your best effort would be to focus upon better-feeling thoughts, and do more things that make you feel good. Your time is a perceptual thing, and even though the clock is ticking the same for everyone, your alignment affects your perception, as well as the results that you allow.

As you observe the enormous differences in the effort that people apply and the results they achieve, you have to conclude that there is more to the equation of achieving than action alone.


August 22, 2010

Creating Magic

Somewhere along the way you began to doubt your ability to create magic for yourself. Never doubt that being able to walk from the perspective of a crawler is truly a miracle.

You lost the ability to extend that belief to new and more 'impossible' miracles. You began to buy into the misbeliefs of those around you who were 'many limits' people, who said, 'You must learn your limitations.' Or, ' You can't do that.' Or, ' You are just like your father, and he couldn't do those things either.' The list was endless, and so too became the limitations.

To recapture that childhood magic and become your own miracle worker, you will have to change the thoughts that created your world of limits and boundaries. That takes place in your mind first, and since thoughts originate with you, you have the ability to re-create your own image of what your life is going to be from now on. Why not include the presence of real magic in your life as well? **Wayne Dyer**

August 16, 2010

Baby Steps

Some of the biggest, most positive and enduring accomplishments are the result of small efforts repeated again and again. There is enormous, nearly unstoppable power in those small efforts when they're focused consistently in the same direction. Tiny, soft water droplets will eventually wear smooth the hardest of stones. So too will small, positive efforts eventually yield big and valuable results.

Your thoughts and actions in the smallest, most seemingly insignificant moments truly matter. They matter very much more than they would seem. For it is in those small, ordinary moments that extraordinary accomplishments are built. It is in the actual living that a life of distinction, success and fulfillment is achieved.

Though you may only move a few inches at a time, those small steps, taken one after another, will eventually put you miles and miles ahead. See the value and real opportunity in each small moment, because those small moments are indeed what combine to make a big and magnificent life. (Ralph Marston)

July 30, 2010

Law of Attraction

You will notice that those who speak most of prosperity, have it. Those who speak most of health, have it. Those who speak most of sickness, have it. Those who speak most of poverty, have it. It is Law. It can be no other way...

The way you feel is your point of attraction, and so, the Law of Attraction is most understood when you see yourself as a magnet getting more and more of the way you feel. When you feel lonely, you attract more loneliness. When you feel poor, you attract more poverty. When you feel sick, you attract more sickness. When you feel unhappy, you attract more unhappiness. When you feel healthy and vital and alive and prosperous - you attract more of all of those things. (Abraham-Hicks)

The other day I went to my neighborhood herb/vitamin store which is owned by two nutritionists. The moment I entered, I wanted to turn around and leave...Yes, the negative energy was that strong. One of the owners asked if she could help me find something and on hearing my answer, she pointed to a shelf location. I asked whether the powder was water soluble and she said she didn't know. With that curt response, she turned around and walked away, leaving me standing alone in an empty store. I left as quickly as I could. If the owner's curtness was due to business being is not about to get any better. Approaching anything from a place of lack never works. If that were my store, I would look for quick and easy solutions to begin with......SMILE, and play some wonderful, soft music. Dressing cheerfully would be better than the black she was wearing......Begin where you can, and as your spirits lift, so will the circumstances.

July 25, 2010

Living With Intention

Our minds are incredibly powerful. We put that power to work for us when we consciously set an intention to be or do something. Get into the practice of consciously setting an intention for every activity in which you are involved.

Your intention might support efficiency – for example, to complete a job or project by a specific time. Your intention might support your personal growth, e.g., to undertake a task that scares you. Or it might support more soul connection, e.g., to see beauty in the chaos of your day.

When we make an effort to set an intention, no matter how trivial it may appear, we are taking the time to choose what we want for ourselves. And clearly, this is essential for our growth – to actively, thoughtfully choose what we want for ourselves.

July 22, 2010

Having The Same Experiences

Expectations of how something is going to play out is a warning signal to me. If I can manage to be aware enough to catch my thoughts at this stage, and change those thoughts, the outcome is amazingly better!

It's not easy to believe that we control what happens to us. It needs to be experienced over and over. I think it's fun!

There may be times in our lives when it seems like we keep having the same kinds of experiences. The situation or the people involved may be different each time, yet one experience may feel exactly like the last one and the one before that one.

Perhaps we left a job where we were unhappy and we find ourselves experiencing similar challenges in our new job. A relationship with a new romantic partner may start to seem a lot like our old relationship and the problems that we thought we had left behind.\

We may feel disappointed or frustrated and wonder why the same situations and people keep showing up in our lives. The truth is that the same kinds of experiences don’t keep happening to us. After all, the circumstances and the people involved are always different.

Subconsciously, there is great value to be had in experiencing life in the same ways until we are ready to have different experiences. Perhaps we feel unworthy of happiness, or worry that we can’t get a break. Our experiences tend to reflect what we believe about life. After all, most of us don’t like to be proven wrong. We may even derive satisfaction in being right or experience a sense of safety every time we confirm to ourselves that know the way the world works.

We may choose a relationship partner who is very different from our last significant other and hope that this time love will turn out differently. Yet as long as we hold whatever beliefs we have that limit the good we can experience in our relationships, we will create the same dynamic of limited happiness with any partner.

We bring ourselves and our beliefs to every situation. Change those thoughts, those beliefs to be more in keeping with what you really want.

***The Daily OM***

July 16, 2010

21 Ways to Stay in Peace

16. Asking for What You Want - Giving Yourself What You Want

Ask for what you want, even though it may feel bold or awkward. People don't know what you want until you ask them. The act of asking is a validation of the awareness that you deserve to have what you want. If others are unable or unwilling to accommodate your request, give it to yourself.

17. Awareness of You

Recognize that the one in front of you is you. Beyond all appearances
and personalities is the essence of goodness, which is you. Remembering your presence in all form will bring you immediately into the present moment, in awe of the fullness therein. The person before you will become an opportunity to know yourself. The heart overflows with love and gratitude, humbly saying, "Oh yes, this person or situation is here for me to learn about who I am."

18. Self Gratitude

For a simple twenty-four hours, stop looking outside yourself for validation. On the other side of that you become the experience of gratitude.

19. The Vanity Mirror

If you want to see who you are not, look in the mirror. Use the mirror once a day only. Who would you be without your mirror?

20. Beyond Justification

Begin to notice how often you explain or justify yourself, your words, actions, decisions, etc. Who are you trying to convince? And what is the story you are perpetuating? Become aware of your use of the word "because" or "but" when you speak. Stop your sentence immediately. Begin again. Justification is an attempt to manipulate the other person; decide to be still and know, and BE CAUSE.


The other day I found myself uncustomarily upset. I don't mean that I don't get upset any longer.....I just don't get VERY upset. I reached for Byron Katie's The Work, and did come to what felt like a magic turn-around. Fantastic, I thought!

Only a few hours later, I found myself back at the beginning. The Work didn't have staying power.....and, so it is. It has to be done over and over on each issue. Not only have we been practicing "our ways" a long time and need to learn new skills in order to change, but there's the unconscious programmed mind! I am newly excited about Psych-K! It is a faster, deeper method for effecting change.

July 11, 2010

21 Ways to Stay in The Peace, part 2

8. Reporting to Yourself

This exercise can help in healing fear and terror. Practice reporting events to yourself as if a circumstance you find yourself in is actually a news story and you are the roving reporter. Announce exactly what your surroundings are and what's happening "on the scene" at that very moment.

Fear is always the result of projecting a re-creation of the past into the now or the future. If you find yourself fearful, find the core belief and inquire: "Is this really true that I need to be fearful in this situation? What is actually happening right now, physically? Where is my body (hands, arms, feet, legs, head)? What do I see (trees, walls,windows, sky)?" Impersonalizing our stories gives us an opportunity to look at circumstances more objectively, and choose our responses to what life brings.

9. Literal Hearing

Practice listening to others in the most literal sense, believing exactly what they say, and do your best to resist falling into your own interpretations about the information they share with you. For example, someone might compliment you on how beautiful you are, and you interpret that as an implication that the person has ulterior motives. Our interpretations of what we hear people say to us are often far more painful or frightening than what people actually say.

We can hurt ourselves with our misconceptions and our thinking for others. Try trusting that what they say is exactly what they mean: not more, not less. Hear people out. Catch yourself when you want to finish a sentence for someone either aloud or in your mind. Listen. It can be amazing to hear what comes out when we allow others to complete their thoughts without interruption. And, when we are busy thinking we know what they are about to say, we are missing what they are actually saying.

You might want to consider these questions: "What can be threatened if I listen and hear literally? Do I interrupt because I don't want to really know what they have to say? Do I interrupt to convince them I know more than they do? Am I attempting to portray an image of self- confidence and control? Who would I be without the need to possess those qualities? Is there a fear of appearing unintelligent? Would people leave me if I heard them literally, and no longer engage in manipulative games?"

10. Speaking Honestly and Literally

Speak literally. Say what you mean without justification, without any desire to manipulate, and without concern about how another may interpret your words. Practice not being careful. Experience the freedom this brings.

11. Watching the Play

See yourself in a balcony, watching your favorite drama about you and what distresses you. Watch the story on the stage below. Notice how you have seen this drama performed hundreds, perhaps thousands of times. Watch this until you find yourself becoming bored. The performers are having to exaggerate their parts to keep your attention. Notice when you get honest with your boredom, you get up from your seat, leave the balcony, exit the playhouse and step outside.

Always know you can re-visit. Who would you be without your story?

12. Watching a Second Version of the Play

Write your story from the eyes and mind of another. Write as many different versions with as many different outcomes as you like. Notice what you notice.

13. Exercising Polarity

If you find yourself dwelling on a negative thought, practice going to the opposite positive extreme or polarity. When you catch yourself slipping back into negativity, choose again to return to the positive polarity and be present with your conscious choice; feel the truth of it. There is only love, and what doesn't appear as love is a disguised call for love. It is your birthright to live in the positive polarity of love and truth.

14. Self Loving Process

Make a list of everything you love about someone and share it with them. Then, give yourself everything that is on the list. You may also recognize that what you love about someone else is just as true of you. Then allow the fullness of it to be expressed in your life.

15. Coming from Honesty

Practice moving and responding honestly. Laugh, cry, scream, and speak as it is genuinely true for you in each moment. Be a child again; act in full integrity with your feelings. Don't let beliefs compromise your integrity. For example, practice leaving a room honestly without manipulating those you leave behind with a polite excuse. Live your truth without explaining yourself. (continued)

July 9, 2010

21 Ways to Stay in the Peace

The following are simple, yet powerful practices from Byron Katie that offer new ways of looking at life circumstances, and in that, create new
possibilities for making choices that will bring you into greater alignment with the best in you.

1. Reversing your HASTY Judgments

Practice noticing when you judge or criticize someone or something. For example, in a grocery store line, you might be impatient and think the person in front of you is disorganized and rude. Quickly turn your judgment around and ask yourself: "Is it just as true about me? Am I rude? (Am I rude sometimes; to others - or to myself?) Am I being rude inside of me when I think they are rude?"

This exercise takes your attention off the "other" and places your attention on you. Forgiveness naturally results. Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility
for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.

Remember, beyond the appearance of who it is you are looking at, it is always God disguised, standing in front of you so that you can know yourself. Reversing judgments allows complete forgiveness. Forgiveness leads to awareness of one's self, and reestablishes personal integrity.

2. The Three Kinds of Business

Notice when you hurt that you are mentally out of your business. If you're not sure, stop and ask, "Mentally, whose business am I in?"

There are only three kinds of business in the universe, mine, yours, and God's. Simple! Whose business is it if an earthquake happens? God's business. Whose business is it if your neighbor down the street has an ugly lawn? Your neighbor's business. Whose business is it if you are angry at your neighbor down the street because they have an ugly lawn? Your business.

Life is simple, it is internal. So, count, in five minute intervals, how many times you are in someone else's business mentally. Notice when you give uninvited advice or offer your opinion about something (aloud or silently). Ask yourself: "Am I in their business? Did they ask me for my advice?" And more importantly, "Can I take the advice I am offering and apply it to my life?"

3. Being in Nobody's Business

After working with the practice of staying out of others' business, try to stay out of your own business as well. Hold lightly whatever you think you know about yourself. "I am contained within this physical body. Is it really true? Can I really know that it's true? What do I get by holding that belief?" There is a widespread belief that we are our bodies, and we will die. "Who would I be without the belief?"

4. "Detaching" from Your Body/Your Story

Try speaking about yourself, for a period of time, in third person, rather than as I or me. Instead of saying, "I'm going to lunch", say "She's going to lunch", referring to yourself), or "This one is going to lunch." Do this with a friend for an hour, the afternoon, or the entire day. Eliminate the use of all personal pronouns (I, me, we). Refer to yourself and the other in third person. For example, "How is that one (or this one) today? Does he want to go to the park?" Experience impersonally the body, the stories and the preferences which you think you are.

5. Speaking in the Present Tense

Become mindful of how often your conversations focus on the past or future. Be aware of the verbs you use: was, did, will, are going to, etc. To speak of the past in the present is to reawaken and recreate it fully in the present, if only in our minds, and then we are lost to what is present for us now. To speak of the future is to create and live with what is but a fantasy in our minds. If you want to experience fear, think of the future. If you want to experience shame and guilt, think of the past.

6. Doing the Dishes

"Doing the dishes" is a practice of learning to love the action that is in front of you. Your inner voice or intuition guides you all day long to do simple things such as doing the dishes, driving to work or sweeping the floor. Allow the sanctity of simplicity. Listening to your inner voice and then acting on its suggestions with implicit trust creates a life that is more graceful, effortless and miraculous.

7. Listening to the Voice of the Body

The body is the voice of your mind, and it speaks to you in physical movement as muscular contractions - as twitches, twinges, tickles and tension, just to name a few. Become aware of how often you move away from peace or stillness. Practice stillness and let your body speak to you of where your mind contracts, no matter how subtle the flickering contraction may be. When you notice a sensation, inquire within, "What situation or contracted thought is triggering this physical
sensation? Am I out of alignment with my integrity in this circumstance, and if so, where? Am I willing to let go of this belief or thought that causes my body to contract?" Listen and allow the answers to guide you, and return to the peace and clarity within. (continued)

July 2, 2010

It Isn't New

'If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due
to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have
the power to revoke at any moment.'
- Marcus Aurelius

Nothing I post is new. I am constantly surprised and amazed just how far back our supposedly current ideas go. :-) We humans are slow learners.

June 29, 2010

Don't Tell It Like It Is!

We practice the Art of Allowing. Which means reaching for the thought that feels best, not the thought that is the real thought, not the thought that is telling it like it is.

Telling it like it is only holds you where it is: "Damn it, I'm going to tell it like it is. I'm going to tell it like it is, because everybody wants me to tell it like it is." Tell it like it is if you like it like it is.

But if you don't like it like it is, then don't tell it like it is--tell it like you want it to be. If you tell it like you want it to be, long enough, you will begin to feel it like you want it to be, and when you feel it like you want it to be, it be's like you want it to be. ~~Abraham-Hicks

This is a version of seeing and describing the glass as half full. Supposing it had been drizzling rain on the day I photographed the above irises. When remembering the day or describing it to others, I could have remembered being damp, the humidity or concern over my camera. Or I could have delighted in the very happy looking flowers I saw and had the opportunity to photograph on a softly lit overcast day.

This takes much practice...or at least it has for me because I have spent most of my life "telling it as it is"
...but it's so worth it!

June 27, 2010

You Are Stronger Than You Believe

Our capacity to cope successfully with life's challenges far outstrips our capacity to feel nervousness. Yet in the time leading up to an event that we believe will test our limits, we often feel extremely anxious and stressed.

We are almost always stronger and more capable than we believe ourselves to be. Anxiety does not abate with reasoning out, so if you can't "turn it over", engage your mind with other things to take the focus off what is producing the anxiety.

When we concentrate on something unrelated to our worry—such as deep breathing, visualizations of success, pleasurable pursuits, or exercise—anxiety dissipates naturally. Meditation is also a useful coping mechanism as it provides us with a means to ground ourselves in the moment.
(Based on the Daily OM)

It's important to give yourself full credit for your accomplishments, especially those which you most feared. You may never lose feeling anxiety or the flight or fight response, but by recognizing the strong person that you really are, each thing which you see as a hurdle will become easier.

June 16, 2010

No Guilt!

It is not your role to make others happy; it is your role to keep yourself in balance.

When you pay attention to how you feel and practice self-empowering thoughts that align with who-you-really-are, you will offer an example of thriving that will be of tremendous value to those who have the benefit of observing you.

You cannot get poor enough to help poor people thrive or sick enough to help sick people get well. You only ever uplift from your position of strength and clarity and alignment.


This is one of my most favorite quotes from Abraham-Hicks. Can you imagine how light someone raised with this belief would be? What if parents did not try to control their children by telling them what they did was the cause of the parents' emotions?

Don't give others control over how you feel. Don't believe others if they tell you that you are responsible for their feelings. Free yourself from guilt.