You Are Stronger Than You Believe

Our capacity to cope successfully with life's challenges far outstrips our capacity to feel nervousness. Yet in the time leading up to an event that we believe will test our limits, we often feel extremely anxious and stressed.

We are almost always stronger and more capable than we believe ourselves to be. Anxiety does not abate with reasoning out, so if you can't "turn it over", engage your mind with other things to take the focus off what is producing the anxiety.

When we concentrate on something unrelated to our worry—such as deep breathing, visualizations of success, pleasurable pursuits, or exercise—anxiety dissipates naturally. Meditation is also a useful coping mechanism as it provides us with a means to ground ourselves in the moment.
(Based on the Daily OM)

It's important to give yourself full credit for your accomplishments, especially those which you most feared. You may never lose feeling anxiety or the flight or fight response, but by recognizing the strong person that you really are, each thing which you see as a hurdle will become easier.

No Guilt!

It is not your role to make others happy; it is your role to keep yourself in balance.

When you pay attention to how you feel and practice self-empowering thoughts that align with who-you-really-are, you will offer an example of thriving that will be of tremendous value to those who have the benefit of observing you.

You cannot get poor enough to help poor people thrive or sick enough to help sick people get well. You only ever uplift from your position of strength and clarity and alignment.

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This is one of my most favorite quotes from Abraham-Hicks. Can you imagine how light someone raised with this belief would be? What if parents did not try to control their children by telling them what they did was the cause of the parents' emotions?

Don't give others control over how you feel. Don't believe others if they tell you that you are responsible for their feelings. Free yourself from guilt.

Allow Well-Being

We would like you to release the word "achieve" or "earn" from your vocabulary and from your understanding, altogether, and we would like you to replace those words with the word "allow".

You're wanting to allow your Well-being, not achieve it. It's not something that you need to earn. All you have to do is decide what it is you would like to experience, and then allow it in order to achieve it. It isn't something you have to struggle for or try for.

**Abraham-Hicks**

Allow Feeling

Sitting with our feelings is the best thing we can do for ourselves rather than stuffing them deep inside.

It can take great courage to really sit with our feelings, allowing ourselves to surrender to their powerful energies. All too often we set our feelings aside, thinking we will deal with them later. If we don’t deal with them, we end up storing them in our minds and bodies and this is when anxiety and other health issues can arise. Denying what our bodies want to feel can lead to trouble now or down the line, which is why being in the thick of our feelings, no matter how scary it seems, is really the best thing we can do for ourselves. One of the reasons we tend to hide or push aside our feelings is that we live in a culture that has not traditionally supported emotional awareness. However, as the connection between mind and body--our emotions and our physical health-- becomes clearer, awareness of the importance of feeling our feelings has grown.

When we simply allow ourselves to fully feel our feelings as they come, we tend to let them go easily. This is all we are required to do; our feelings simply want to be felt. No need for analyzing them! (The Daily OM)
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I used to believe that to be productive as well as sane, emotions like grief, anger, betrayal, and fear...to name just a few....had to be overcome, and quickly. Such strong feelings of hot pain could only hurt me, I thought. It's taken me a very long time to get to believing that the real harm is in suppressing it all! Now, I work at allowing, and I teach others the same. There is much comfort as well as power in allowing. It spells accepting and loving all of ourselves.

Great Advice!

Make more decisions in every day because a decision is a summoning of life.

That's why a little chaos is good for you, because often you don't make a decision until you get yourself in a jam. And then, in the middle of the jam, you make a decision, but that decision summons Life Force.

Have you ever been a place where you couldn't quite make up your mind and you just felt sort of limp? "Oh, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know." And then you decided, and you felt alive again.

We want you to know that you'll never get it done. So don't approach this from, "I gotta get on this" because you're not ever going to get it done, anyway. And the other thing we want you to know is, you cannot get it wrong. So, make a decision. Let it flow. (Abraham-Hicks)

Quieting Monkey Mind

Most of us get frustrated when things don't go the way we want. Maybe we have so much on our plate, we are exhausted just thinking about it.....and we are so stressed that we have a difficult time accomplishing any of those things.

This exercise comes from Esther Hicks, and it works every time. Called the "Placemat" because originally, the story goes, Esther wrote her list out on a paper placemat while having breakfast in a restaurant.

Turn a blank piece of paper horizontally and draw a line down the middle from top to bottom.
Mark the left column: "Everything I need and want to to today, being sure to include some fun things, as well.
Mark the right column: "Everything I want God (or the Universe) to do or to figure out for me.

The only difficult part about this is taking the time to make the list. :-)Go ahead....do it. You will be surprised.

Dealing With Fear

F.E.A.R. is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. There’s no true threat of immediate physical danger, no threat of a loss of someone or something dear to us, actually nothing there at all.

F.E.A.R. is an illusion. Something we fabricate in our own minds and pretend it’s real. It’s a fairy tale we tell ourselves that keeps us from doing what we really want.

False evidence appearing real.

The common label for F.E.A.R is anxiety, a less fundamental emotion that arises purely from our own thoughts, not external reality. And 50 years of cognitive psychology research demonstrates that while we can’t always control how we feel, we do have the power to choose how we think and act. **Brian Clark**

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I have had no success overcoming fear. I fear heights, dental work, public speaking, and many other things. There are three things which have helped me.

1. I have learned that I cannot predict the future. I really can NOT, and I refuse to waste valuable time today fearing for something which has not happened...a future event of some kind. In this case, how I think about the future...unknown, like it or not....has changed my anxiety level tremendously.

2. When I don't want to undertake a project that requires risking time and money because almost all of my projects of the last several years have failed, I remind myself of the large numbers of famous people who failed many more times than I have and met success because they did not give up. Sometimes, I actually have to read about these people once again, even twice again...before my fear melts.

3. There are a number of fears which I permit myself. If I am going to be brave in most things, then allowing myself to keep some fears feels comforting. For example, I am perfectly o.k. with not going on high ladders or roller coasters, swimming in deep water, or visiting snake exhibits. These and a few other fears are sacrosanct. I own them, and I do not accept anyone trying to talk me out of them or making fun of them.

What's important for me is that I don't miss out on anything by giving myself permission to fear a few things. Only deal with what is going to enhance your life. At the same time, deal with most fears head-on as fear breeds fear. (I no longer watch the news.)