It's that time again ...have you made your New Year's Resolutions? Or are you like many well-intentioned people who have decided it's a losing battle and not worth the aggravation?
New Year's Resolutions are always filled with good intentions and hope for a better life this year than we had last year. But what happens when February rolls around and our good intentions have become a source of frustration and self-recrimination? There are many reasons why resolutions don't stick. See if any of these feel familiar:
- Too big or too unrealistic; they create a sense of "Overwhelm-Induced Inertia."
- Floating Resolutions; they're not attached to your vision.
- Externally motivated; they're what someone else thinks you should do or want.
- There's no detailed plan or strategy to reach them, they're all talk and no action; or your plan is too broad and not specific enough. Lack of motivation or follow-through.
- Too rigid or absolute.
If you want to create positive change in your life, here are some strategies to help you increase your chances for success:
- Choose a resolution that feels manageable, yet still challenges you.
- Be sure your resolution or goal is clearly attached to your vision; achieving it will take you toward your vision rather than away from it.
- Be clear that your resolution is something YOU want.
- Have a plan that not only defines the major steps over time, but also the small, individual action steps you can take on a daily basis.
- Create some system of accountability; enlist the help of a Buddy who is as motivated as you are.
- As you work your plan, allow the process to evolve and be refined. (Laurie Cameron)
